Therapy for people whose lives look right but still don’t feel right.
Relational depth psychotherapy for adults stuck in patterns insight alone hasn’t shifted.
UKCP & BACP Senior Accredited · 10,000+ clinical hours · Online UK & Wimbledon, SW20 · English and Deutsch
You might recognise yourself here
You are reflective, self-aware, and used to thinking about your own mind. You have probably read the books, done courses or earlier therapy, and can name your patterns.
And yet something does not move.
Relationships become difficult at the point they start to matter. You function well on the outside but feel disconnected, flat, or quietly exhausted underneath. The same dynamic keeps repeating, even though you can see it coming. Insight has not translated into a different lived experience.
You are not starting from zero. You are still not where you want to be.
Insight is not the same as change
Many people come to therapy already understanding why they think and feel the way they do.
What often has not happened yet is a shift at the level where those patterns actually live: in the body, in close relationships, and in real-time experience.
This work focuses on that level. Not only revisiting your history, but noticing what unfolds between us as it happens, and working with it directly.
That is where lasting change becomes possible, in patterns that thinking alone cannot reach.
How I work
My approach is relational and depth-oriented.
In practical terms, this means we pay attention not only to what you talk about, but to what unfolds between us in the room. Patterns are not only discussed, they are noticed and worked with as they happen. The therapeutic relationship becomes part of the process, not just the setting for it.
Rather than applying techniques to you, we work with what emerges, so that change is not imposed from the outside but develops from within your own experience.
The work is informed by contemporary relational psychoanalysis, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology, including the work of Dan Siegel and Bessel van der Kolk. My thinking sits alongside Esther Perel, Brené Brown, and Gabor Maté.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” -Rumi
This work is likely a good fit if
- You have already done a significant amount of thinking about yourself.
- You notice repeating emotional or relational patterns and want to understand why thinking about them has not changed them.
- You are open to a process that unfolds at its own pace, rather than a quick fix.
- You are willing to look at what happens in the moment, not only at what happened in the past.
This may not be the right fit if
- You are looking for short-term symptom relief or immediate strategies only.
- You want a structured, technique-led approach with clear steps and tools.
- You are not yet ready to explore your internal and relational patterns in depth.
- If those are what you need, that is a legitimate choice. I am happy to suggest colleagues whose approach is a better match.
Areas I commonly work with
Clients often come with experiences such as repeating relationship patterns they cannot shift, high-functioning anxiety or chronic overthinking, emotional disconnection or difficulty sustaining intimacy, burnout that is tied to deeper internal pressures, and the sense that life is working on the surface but not internally.
They may experience this in the context of relationships at a crossroads, the aftermath of an affair, separation or a divorce, identity quietly shifting due to career change, midlife, parenthood, loss or retirement, or the sense that a chapter is ending before the next one has arrived, and the anxiety, exhaustion, overwhelm, stuckness, sadness, or numbness that often travels with all of it.
I also work with the impact of earlier relational experiences and complex trauma, particularly where these continue to shape current relationships and self-experience.
I see individuals and couples. Sessions are available in English and Deutsch.
Experience
I am an integrative relational psychotherapist with over 10,000 clinical hours, accredited by UKCP and BACP at Senior Accredited level.
I started my private practice in London twelve years ago. Since then, I’ve worked online and in person across the Harley Street Medical Area, the NHS, and corporates. Alongside private practice, I am a visiting lecturer at the University of Roehampton and work internationally with individuals and organisations on psychological wellbeing, burnout, and relational dynamics.
My work brings together depth psychotherapy, contemporary relational psychoanalysis, attachment-informed thinking, and neurobiology.
Running on empty, but rest doesn’t fix it?
Something isn’t working in relationships for you?
The old is gone and you don’t know what’s next?
Nowhere and everywhere is home?
Working together
Sessions are 50 minutes, usually held weekly. I work online with clients across the UK, and in person in Wimbledon, SW20.
Most therapy is open-ended and paced according to the work itself.
If you are considering whether this is the right fit, the simplest first step is an initial conversation.
Therapy is no quick fix. It gives you room to understand what’s actually happening. From there, things begin to shift.
A different kind of change
Relational depth therapy is not the fastest route, and it is not for everyone. But for people who have reached the point where understanding is no longer enough, it offers a way forward that does not depend on trying harder.
It depends on working differently.
I came to therapy not knowing what to expect. Veronika helped me understand my patterns and how they affect my daily life and relationships. I feel positive and hopeful, and I now have tools I can actually use.
I’ve had several therapists in the past, but this was the first time where I feel something has really changed in me.
Insightful and pragmatic. Veronika listens carefully and challenges you in just the right way. It’s helped me untangle long-standing issues with self-compassion and confidence, and make changes I didn’t think were possible.
These are real client words, shared with permission and with confidentiality protected.
Your Questions, Answered:
Q: Do you offer online therapy?
A: Yes. I see clients both in person in SW20 and online across the UK. Most people start with at least one in-person session.
Q: Why choose human-to-human therapy over AI tools?
A: AI and apps can be useful in a coaching-like way. But when what you’re carrying is rooted in relationship, pattern, or history, the relationship in the room is where the work actually happens.
Q: Am I bad enough to need therapy?
A: Probably not the right question. Most of the people I work with are functioning, they’re just carrying something they’d rather understand better. You don’t need a diagnosis, a crisis, or permission. Noticing that something isn’t right is usually enough.