Library
Reading, listening, learning.
Articles, audio practices, and long-form essays on insight, loneliness, burnout, relationships, cross-cultural life and the patterns that shape adult life. Written for psychologically minded readers who want substance, not slogans.
Betrayal, Anger, and What Comes Next
For some women, recalibration is not chosen. It arrives through rupture. By the time the anger surfaces, the betrayal has often been quietly metabolised…
The Difference Between a Feeling and an Emotion (and Why It Matters)
“How does that make you feel?” is the most-asked question in therapy and the most often misanswered. The small clinical difference between a feeling…
When Love Feels Distant: On the Long Middle of Long Relationships
One of the quietest griefs in my consulting room. Not the affair, not the divorce. The slow falling-out-of-aliveness between two people who still, in…
When the First Excitement Is Over
There is a stage that follows the first chapter of every long relationship that rarely gets a name. Neuroscience calls it pair-bonding. Couples call…
Who’s talking, and who’s answering? A map of relationship dynamics
We each speak from one of three places: a Parent (rules, care, criticism), an Adult (calm, present, problem-solving), or a Child (feelings, play, hurt).…
The Nervous System Curve. A map of your stress response
An interactive map of the three nervous-system states, Freeze, Fight or Flight, and Social Engagement, and how to notice where you are.
Lonely in Love: The Disconnection No One Talks About
A reflection on why relationships can feel empty despite closeness, exploring disconnection and paths to deeper intimacy.
How satisfied are you in your relationship?
A four-item reflection drawn from the Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI-4), a research-validated brief measure of relationship satisfaction. About 1 minute.
What attachment actually is, and what it isn’t
What attachment is, in the clinical sense: implicit relational knowing, the four patterns, and what shifts through therapy, parenting and steady relationships.
