We each speak from one of three places: a Parent (rules, care, criticism), an Adult (calm, present, problem-solving), or a Child (feelings, play, hurt). A conversation flows when the two lines run parallel, and snags the moment they cross.
Tap a square: you speak from the row, they answer from the column.
You ↓
They →
They →
Parentrules / care
Adultpresent
Childfeeling
Flows Fits, but locks roles Crosses (friction)
You: Adult · They: Adult
Two adults, meeting as equals
There is no “right” square. We all move between Parent, Adult and Child many times a day. The work is noticing which one is speaking, and being able to come back to Adult when it matters.
