For couples and individuals navigating difficulty in their relationships — a reflective, practical space to understand what’s happening between you and what each of you brings to it.

How relationship therapy with me works

Relationship therapy can be done as a couple or as an individual working on a relationship. Both are valid and often equally powerful. Sometimes one partner is ready and the other isn’t; sometimes the relationship that needs work is with a parent, sibling, colleague, or friend. We start with what’s most pressing and build from there.

Most people arrive wanting something in the relationship to change — less conflict, more closeness, a decision made, a pattern broken. That is a fair place to start. My approach is integrative. We will work with behavioural tools (how you communicate, how you listen, how you handle conflict, what you notice in your body when things escalate) and understand what underlies the pattern — attachment history, unspoken expectations, inherited rules, old wounds that get triggered in new relationships. Behavioural change and deeper understanding support each other.

Dating and forming new relationships

Dating in adulthood can feel exposing. You may find yourself repeating the same patterns, dating people who don’t meet you, or struggling to trust what good connection actually feels like. Therapy offers space to understand what you’re drawn to, what you flinch from, and what genuine compatibility looks like for you — so the next chapter isn’t a repeat of the last.

Considering, going through, or recovering from separation and divorce

Separation and divorce rarely arrive as a single clear decision. There is often a long period of ambivalence, relief, grief, and self-doubt running in parallel. Whether you’re weighing whether to stay, actively going through separation, co-parenting after one, or rebuilding life afterwards, therapy provides a steady place to think clearly, feel fully, and act with care — for yourself, your children if there are any, and the people involved.

After infidelity

Whether you’re the person who was betrayed, the person who stepped outside the relationship, or you’re still trying to understand what happened, the aftermath of infidelity asks for honesty, slowness, and a kind of courage most relationships aren’t built for. Therapy holds space for both the acute pain and the longer questions about what the relationship means, what it can become, and whether it should continue.

Modern relationships and non-traditional structures

Not every relationship fits the monogamous, coupled, long-term model. Polyamory, open relationships, intentionally single, blended families, long-distance, cross-cultural, interracial partnerships — each brings its own strengths and its own complexities. My work doesn’t pathologise the structure; it engages with what’s actually happening in it.

Relationship patterns that repeat

Pursue then withdraw. Fix then resent. Please then explode. Shut down to keep the peace. Choose the familiar but painful dynamic across partners, friendships, and teams. If you recognise yourself here, it is not a character flaw; it is usually something your nervous system learned to do a long time ago, in a context that made sense at the time. Therapy helps you map the pattern, listen for the emotional need underneath it, and practise something different.

What therapy with me provides space for

• Mapping your relational patterns across partners, family, friends and work
• Listening for the emotional need underlying criticism, anger or silence
• Building boundaries that hold without guilt or resentment
• Communicating for repair, not to win the point
• Choosing differently so the next chapter isn’t a repeat of the last
• Navigating breakup, divorce, separation or co-parenting with steadiness
• Including context: culture, family responsibility, faith, class, identity Who I work with Adults and couples of any structure or cultural background. Sessions online across the UK and in person in Wimbledon, in English and Deutsch. Further reading

Who I work with

Adults and couples of any structure or cultural background. Sessions online across the UK and in person in Wimbledon, in English and Deutsch.

Further reading

• Love Rewritten: How Relationships Change Over Time
• Arms Length: The Closeness We Fear
• Brick by Brick: Building Intimacy is not Just One Leap
• To Risk or Not to Risk: The Unsettling Freedom of Modern Love
• Lonely in Love: The Disconnection No One Talks About
• Left Behind: The Quiet Pain of Being Single in a Coupled World
• Why “Colourblindness” Can Hurt Interracial Relationships
• Understanding Attachment Styles
• Let’s Talk! Effective Communication Skills
• Vulnerability 

How to start

If you’d like to explore working together, whether as an individual or as a couple, get in touch. You can also read more about my approach or how therapy begins. Fees and practical questions are covered in the FAQ on the Contact page.