Essays
Long-form essays on insight, relationships, transitions, and the patterns that shape adult life.
What attachment actually is, and what it isn’t
What attachment is, in the clinical sense: implicit relational knowing, the four patterns, and what shifts through therapy, parenting and steady relationships.
It’s complex
A short essay on the phrase clients reach for when they are talking around trauma. What “it’s complex” usually means, why I am glad…
Therapy in the language that holds you
For people who live, love, and work across cultures and languages. On why the language of therapy matters, and what it makes possible.
Insight is not the same as change
For reflective people who already see their patterns and find that seeing has stopped being enough. On why insight alone does not change them.
Loneliness that hides in plain sight
The loneliness that does not look like loneliness. The kind that hides inside long relationships and into rooms full of people.
AI and Therapy: Friend or Foe?
AI is smart. It is helpful. But is it enough? A relational psychotherapist reads the limits of artificial intelligence in the consulting room, with…
To Risk or Not to Risk: The Unsettling Freedom of Modern Love
London is sweltering through another heatwave. Trains are delayed, tempers are short, and sleep is elusive. One of my fiercely independent, long-time single clients…
Functioning Is Not the Same as Feeling Well
You keep going, keep doing, but something inside feels frayed. You are not sleepy. You are lost. You have tried to rest, but the…
