Articles & Essays
Essays are the long reads, articles the shorter pieces, both for the ideas worth sitting with in your own time.
When Love Feels Distant: On the Long Middle of Long Relationships
One of the quietest griefs in my consulting room. Not the affair, not the divorce. The slow falling-out-of-aliveness between two people who still, in…
When the First Excitement Is Over
There is a stage that follows the first chapter of every long relationship that rarely gets a name. Neuroscience calls it pair-bonding. Couples call…
Lonely in Love: The Disconnection No One Talks About
A reflection on why relationships can feel empty despite closeness, exploring disconnection and paths to deeper intimacy.
What attachment actually is, and what it isn’t
What attachment is, in the clinical sense: implicit relational knowing, the four patterns, and what shifts through therapy, parenting and steady relationships.
It’s complex
A short essay on the phrase clients reach for when they are talking around trauma. What “it’s complex” usually means, why I am glad…
Therapy in the language that holds you
For people who live, love, and work across cultures and languages. On why the language of therapy matters, and what it makes possible.
Insight is not the same as change
For reflective people who already see their patterns and find that seeing has stopped being enough. On why insight alone does not change them.
Loneliness that hides in plain sight
The loneliness that does not look like loneliness. The kind that hides inside long relationships and into rooms full of people.
Understanding Attachment Styles: The Foundation of Human Relationships
Uncover The Impact Of Early Experiences On Attachment Styles And Discover How They Influence Your Personal And Professional Relationships.
