Between Cultures: Notes on Belonging, Love and Learning to Speak Yourself I’m an immigrant. I’ve lived in the UK nearly twenty years. I still notice small things. The way people ask, “You alright?” and expect a breezy, “Yeah, you?” rather than a moment of real...
Arms Length: The Closeness We Fear It always happens at the same point. Just when things begin to feel easy, the laughter slipping in, the tenderness within reach, she would pull back. A message left unanswered, a weekend suddenly too busy, the warmth cooling into...
Friend or Foe: AI Can Talk. But Can it Care? “Have you ever tried talking to ChatGPT about this?” I asked my client. Simona (not her real name) smiled, slightly averted her gaze, then hesitated. “Well, actually… I did just last weekend.” She’d...
Brick by Brick: Building Intimacy is not Just One Leap We adore the idea of grand movie-like romantic gestures: surprise vacations, elaborate gifts, dramatic declarations of love. They captivate us – but they don’t sustain us. Lisa, a client of mine, captured...
Still Functioning, Totally Fried: The Slow Burn of Burnout You might recognise it. You keep going, keep doing—but something inside feels frayed. You’re not sleepy. You’re lost. You’ve tried to rest, but the rest doesn’t rest you. This is often the point where people...
To Risk or Not to Risk: The Unsettling Freedom of Modern Love London is sweltering through another heatwave. Trains are delayed, tempers are short, and sleep is elusive. One of my fiercely independent, long-time single clients confessed – half amused, half...
Lonely in Love: The Disconnection No One Talks About The ache went straight through my heart. He wasn’t crying. He wasn’t even angry. Just sitting there, eyes lowered, voice soft: “I don’t know… we live together, we talk, but I feel more lonely than when I...
Left Behind: The Quiet Pain of Being Single in a Coupled World There’s a kind of loneliness that’s hard to speak about—not because it’s rare, but because it’s so familiar. So woven into our social fabric that it almost becomes invisible. You’re at a dinner party where...
Why “Colourblindness” Can Hurt Interracial Relationships During a recent session, Henry, a white British male client in his late 30s, shared a concern that had been quietly troubling him for months. He described feeling increasingly disconnected from his...
Struggling To Sleep? Here’s How To Rest Easy On average, adults require about 7-9 hours of sleep per night. However, contrary to popular belief, you can’t just make up for lost sleep the next day. Studies suggest it can take up to four days to recover from just one...
Is Stress Good or Bad? Often framed as a foe, stress has become synonymous with anxiety and ill health. Yet, stress is a natural response intricately woven into our biology. When faced with challenges, our bodies engage the fight-or-flight response, flooding us with...
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Talking is Silver… In both my coaching and therapeutic work, communication is a regular topic. Recently, silence and the discomfort that it brings for many people has featured in several conversations prompting me to share some thoughts and my favourite poem...
Let’s Talk! Effective Communication Skills Are you a good communicator? Do you wonder if you could be better? Good communicators can both listen and talk. They can stay present, patient, and engaged in the conversation. Being a good communicator requires you to...
Test Yourself: Burnout Self Assessment Burnout can affect anyone, from savvy professionals in high-pressure jobs to people in the helping professions and students. Individual factors, such as personality traits and family life, make some people more prone to...
5 Instant Ways To Calm Down Clients often ask me how to calm down overwhelm and deal with a frantic mind. What you can do in the moment to regain control in a tense, high anxiety state is different from learning techniques to better manage your stress long-term. The...
Connecting With Your Inner Child The Inner Child is a symbolic representation of the childlike aspects of one’s psyche. The concept is often used to help personal growth in the healing process from unresolved past experiences or trauma. Fostering a deeper...
Interpersonal Dynamics in Corporate Teams and Personal Relationships Navigating interpersonal dynamics is an integral part of our daily existence, impacting us both in professional settings and within our personal lives. These dynamics are omnipresent, and while some...
Self Assessment for Mental Health Check your mental health with this quick, confidential, and clinically validated self-assessment. Feeling stressed, anxious, depressed? Something is not quite right but you’re not sure if therapy is for you? Take this test to figure...
Preventing Burnout: 13 Essential Strategies Burnout has become an all-too-common experience for many. Juggling work, personal life, and various responsibilities can take a toll on our physical and mental well-being. By implementing effective strategies, we can...
